Stop Your Break-Up: Jealousy

Friday, January 18, 2008

Making Your Ex Lover Jealous

This is one break-up mistake that many of us make and there have been a few relationship experts out there who have encouraged people to do this. Get a new lover and flaunt your new love in your ex’s face and he or she will come running back to you. Perhaps this premise sounds realistic, but I don’t think so.

Firstly, you are essentially using the new person to make your ex jealous and if they have half a brain, they will realize this and dump you like a hot potato. Your ex will also see that you are in-fact using this person to make them jealous and their opinion of you will take a serious dive.

Secondly, they may ask you to come back, out of simple insecurity with themselves, and to see if the other person was indeed serious competition. When they realize this is not the case, you will be right back where you started.

Lastly, they may believe that you are not available and could surmise that they should move on, and perhaps find themselves a new lover. If they were having doubts about whether they should have ended the relationship, well they will not be second guessing themselves now.

You want to get back with your ex lover and sometimes those feelings of rejection, hurt, anger and sadness can push us to do some crazy things. Our emotions take over and we feel torn inside out and we will sometimes do desperate things. Attempting to make your ex jealous is not going to bring their love back. It will push their love away. Beside you do not want your ex to be feeling jealous. Jealousy can be a very destructive and dangerous emotion and can lead to feelings of resentment, which will not help you in your quest to win back your lover.

If your ex sees that you are trying to make them jealous, they may also feel that you are trying to manipulate them or control them and this will definitely not help the situation. No-one wants to be controlled, humans want a freedom of choice and you want your ex to feel free to choose to be with you once again.

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Saturday, December 8, 2007

Arguing – A Pointless Exercise

You are feeling a great amount of emotions and feelings. These emotions could include; anger, sadness, jealousy, guilt, and rejection, just to name a few. Your heart is broken, your self esteem is shattered and you believe that your now, ex lover is wrong. You believe that they have made the wrong decision and judged you and the relationship too harshly. When we feel unjustly treated our natural action is to defend ourselves by arguing our point of view with our partner.

Believe me when I tell you, this is a pointless exercise that will not endear you to your lost love. It is almost, if not totally impossible to win an argument after a break up. Emotions and feelings from both partners are at breaking point and that protective wall that we build around ourselves when we are hurt goes up. No-one is going to win this argument, as both of you are going to have very differing points of view and so soon after a break up, it is going to be impossible to make your point seem valid to the other person. When it comes to arguments in general, I believe no-one really wins, especially if a compromise or resolution is not reached. This to me, means that one partner loses and the other wins. In which case, the relationship loses. You will not be able to convince your partner that they are wrong immediately after a break up.

This is a no win situation, and you would do well to not get into any sort of argument with your ex. Your goal is to win them back, which is why you are reading these articles. Arguing right and wrong with them will ultimately push them further away from you. It is a natural reaction to argue and defend our point of view and I don’t blame you for feeling like arguing with your partner, given you are feeling devastated inside. However, you need to realize that you will ruin your chances of getting back together with your ex.

If you can sense an argument brewing, walk away. Tell your ex-partner you do not wish to discuss the matter. There will be a time in the future when you and your partner will be in contact again, and you will be feeling a lot more positive and have a different attitude, you partner will see you in a totally different light and it will be these elements that will attract your partner, and remind them why they fell in love with you in the first place.

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